• not like me white room and white bed with white woman on a bed laying on her stomach hands crossed brown hair red soled shoes in the
    Aging,  Experiences,  Self Love

    Not Like Me

    It is not like me to post pictures of myself online. Okay, so on this site it is kind of like me, but, the selfies on social media are not like me. For all the times I have looked at myself in pictures and rolled my eyes or headed to the frig for a cake icing and a spoon, you would think this picture would present a different result. Well, it didn’t. I didn’t run to the frig for the cake icing, but the eye roll was real. This picture, and more to follow, is a result of a very spontaneous “boudoir” photoshoot. My friends and I were sitting around…

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    Aging,  BDSM,  Decisions,  Every Damn Day in June,  Kink of the Week,  kinks,  Self Love

    Feeling Strappy Kinks

    I am feeling strappy kinks!  Maybe I am feeling strappy because it has been forever since I have experienced them.  I love straps of any kind, in clothing, and how they feel when they graze my body.  My biggest kink (thus far) is impact play.  Spanking, crops, and belts have been my experience, and I love them all.  Flogging is something that I have not experienced but hope that someday I will.  Until then, I will settle for soft straps across my body.  This suit was ordered during one of my sleep shopping nights.  Silly, I know, but I honestly don’t remember ordering this!  It came in the mail, and…

  • saying hard things pink square like a package hole in the middle white face with pink lipstick
    Aging,  Decisions,  Distress,  Experiences,  Random thoughts and processing,  Relationship Thoughts Old and New,  Self Love,  Trust

    Love is Saying the Hard Things

    Love is saying the hard things.  Sometimes the hardest things to say are the things that need to be said.  Recently while sharing some whiskey with a friend, he made a comment so significant that it stopped me dead in my tracks. “The problem is T, love is saying the hard things, and you aren’t good at saying the hard things.” Well, fuck me!  The main problem with this was I instantly knew he was right, and that stung a little bit.  In my defense, I don’t like hurting people’s feelings.  I also do not like confrontation.  Put those two together and its a losing combination.  Who looses?  Everyone! I…

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    Aging

    My Twenties

    My twenties were a mix of things.  Looking back, it should have been the best time of my life.  While my friends were still going to bars and trying to hook up, I had settled down.  Married at the age of 24, we owned a house and had started down the road to adulthood.  I had a good job, a nice house with an inground pool in the back yard, decent neighbors, and everything he had promised.  The only thing missing was happiness. I didn’t know it at the time, and even if I had some subconscious notion of not feeling happy, I would have and probably did suppress it.…

  • 70 year old model green jacket black shirt gorgeous
    Aging,  Decisions,  Experiences,  Memes and Things,  Random thoughts and processing

    I wonder what age that is…

    So let’s get real about age.   I have a love-hate relationship with age and aging.  My whole life, my mantra when others would complain about their age, aching muscles, or whatever was related to age; I would say it is just number.  I firmly believe this to be true.  My beautiful mother is 80 years old.  She walks over 20,000 steps a day, does yoga twice a week, and goes to the gym twice a week.  She plants and works her garden, and has several flower beds that she tends throughout the year.  Her energy is phenomenal!  I also always joke that I take after my father.  She has…