My experiences or others experiences that have touched me, taught me, scared me, saddened me, all of which made me grow.

  • saying hard things pink square like a package hole in the middle white face with pink lipstick
    Aging,  Decisions,  Distress,  Experiences,  Random thoughts and processing,  Relationship Thoughts Old and New,  Self Love,  Trust

    Love is Saying the Hard Things

    Love is saying the hard things.  Sometimes the hardest things to say are the things that need to be said.  Recently while sharing some whiskey with a friend, he made a comment so significant that it stopped me dead in my tracks. “The problem is T, love is saying the hard things, and you aren’t good at saying the hard things.” Well, fuck me!  The main problem with this was I instantly knew he was right, and that stung a little bit.  In my defense, I don’t like hurting people’s feelings.  I also do not like confrontation.  Put those two together and its a losing combination.  Who looses?  Everyone! I…

  • naked Caucasian women great and navel visible
    Boobday,  Experiences,  Memes and Things

    Benefits to Working at Home

    I am trying to find the benefits of working from home and take advantage of the time given to me.  My work is an “on-call” basis so I am only needed if the client has a meeting.  While I was in the office, I used my downtime to write or read or shop.  In an effort to decrease my anxiety with all of these new routines in place at the moment.  I am determined to make better use of my time.  The benefits of being able to stay at home are good.  Even with some of the inconveniences. I don’t have an office in my home.  I worked briefly in…

  • front view of naked Caucasian women drapped with plaid scarf in red black and grey
    Experiences,  February Photofest 2020,  February Photofest 2020,  Memes and Things

    Day 9 – New Look

    A new look is always fun and exciting.  It could be a new dress, some fancy shoes, or just a new great pair of earrings.  My new look is more permanent than that.  I recently had a surgical procedure that changed how I look from the front.  I am learning to embrace it but it takes time.  I know what some of you are thinking.  It was an improvement, get over it!  Right?  I hear you and I get it.  I do think the look is better and my clothes fit better and my front looks better.  The important thing is the medical condition that prompted the new look is…

  • black and red jacket with cleavage of white women visible.
    Experiences,  February Photofest 2020,  February Photofest 2020,  Memes and Things


    Comfy can be sexy!  I strongly believe this.   I see a girl in jeans and a hoody barefoot and I think that is hot. I see a guy in sweat pants and a white T-shirt, the game is on!  Don’t get me wrong, I like lingerie and I think it can be comfy and sexy at the same time.  But it isn’t all about the leather and lace.  Sometimes it is something casual that can make you feel your best, feel your sexy best.  I am very textile so for me the texture of things makes me feel a certain way.  Soft and fluffy is my favorite! I ordered…

  • Experiences,  Kink of the Week,  Memes and Things

    Those little red clothespins tho!

    There are a lot of things that I enjoy that are used to cause pain.  Those little red clothespins tho!  Most of my kink and learning about what I like came from my first and last Dom.  He was much more knowledgable and was also very good at introducing things slowly and carefully.  I remember one time while I was watching his house and he was away with someone else I got nosey.  I admit it.  I use to feel bad about it but fuck it now.  He is gone and while he probably knew he never said anything so he didn’t care.  I didn’t snoop through his financials, or…