Learning the Hard Way

Similar to the experiences category, this is literally a "lessons learned" from my life experiences.  Good or bad, the life we live is full of lessons.  Life is a real-time, constantly moving, constantly changing education.

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    BDSM,  Decisions,  Experiences,  kinks,  Learning the Hard Way,  Polyamorous,  Protect Your Heart,  Self Love,  Sir/Daddy,  Toy for Sir

    Good People

    I like good people and want to be around good people. When the past comes knocking on my door, I have never been one to leave it there standing on the porch. I have a lot of shit in my past, but I also feel that I learn from my experiences. I have learned not to live in the past and over the past three years, I have learned to place it in a safe place in my brain. Until now. My breakup with my Dom (first and only) has been a huge part of this blog. Our relationship prior to the breakup has been too. I write my feelings…

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    January Jumpstart,  Learning the Hard Way,  Self Love

    Walk on the Beach

    A walk on the beach is soul cleansing for me. All my senses are engaged, and for some reason, at the first step on the sand, my brain can breathe. I have always loved the beach but didn’t realize its true power until later in life. That is a theme in my life; later in life is where most of my lessons and “clicked.” The ability to look back at the chapters of my life and see the lessons can only happen later when you have the maturity to recognize them. I was never one to walk on the beach in my younger days. I was oiled up and lying…

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    Decisions,  Distress,  kinks,  Learning the Hard Way,  Self Love

    Doing Things or not Doing Things, it is a Choice!

    Doing things or not doing things it is a choice. Every day we have a choice to make on all levels.  Trying to keep within the legal limits, of course, we are faced with decisions and choices every day.  How we handle those decisions and how we approach the choices we make is essential.  We can all look back and wonder, “What the hell was I thinking?” but we can also look back and say, “Damn, I nailed that one!”.  How we view our choices is also a choice. I was going through my phone, clearing some pictures off of it.  I take pictures of memes, and different things as…

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    Decisions,  kinks,  Learning the Hard Way,  Sir/Daddy,  Toy for Sir

    She Wanted to Know

    She wanted to know about him so badly.  There was no one to ask, no one to reach out to, no one to trust. She sat alone in her house.  The house she decorated for him.  Some of his things still in place even if she is the only one that knows they are there.  The carpets she bought so his dog wouldn’t be scared by her hardwood floors.  She wanted to know how he was.  She wanted to know how he was dealing with the world, his world, without her. Time has passed.  A lot of time.  There were days when she was ok.  There were days when she…

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    Learning the Hard Way,  Random thoughts and processing,  Thoughts

    Blue Sky

    The color blue to some is a sad and gloomy state of being.  “Feeling blue” has been meant to feel sad and low.  For me, there is something uplifting and hopeful about the color of a blue sky.  I can make me feel happy.  I look up and see the brilliant blue color and there is something about it that gives me hope.  Particularly after a few days of grey and rainy days, the blue sky can energize me. Beaches and blue sky always center me.  I usually give the beach and the ocean the credit for making me feel better and making me feel centered.  I don’t think I…