Relationship Thoughts Old and New
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Unapologetically Me
I am unapologetically me. It has taken me a very long time to get to this point. I am 57 years old. Unfortunately I think this realization has only come to fruition over the last three years. I have made mistakes. Big ones and little ones. I have learned from every single one of those mistakes. Some of these mistakes I made more than once. That I apologize for, but I apologize to myself. I am not evil, and I do not go out and see who I can hurt or ruin. I live my life as the best person that I can be. I try to be honest, and…
- January Jumpstart, Lifestyle, Lustitude, Open Relationships, Polyamorous, Relationship Thoughts Old and New, Trust
Lifestyle
Lifestyle is a term I both love and hate. While not liking labels on a person, I realize that lifestyle is a part of us. That part I like. The part I hate is that saying you have a lifestyle can pigeon hole you to the point that if you deviate from it – you are deviant. I don’t want to stay in any lifestyle or category at this point in my life. I have always hated labels. I find that in each community I enter, others need to place you in a category. When I started dating my ex-wife, I wasn’t gay enough. It was clear that her friends,…
- Decisions, Experiences, January Jumpstart, Lifestyle, Memes and Things, Open Relationships, Polyamorous, Relationship Thoughts Old and New
Stay the Night
It had been a while since I shared my bed with someone. Even my Ex-what-ever-he-was never stayed the night with me. I always went to him. Although I had set my house up to his liking just in case, it ever happened. So when my current relationship said he could stay over, I was not only surprised and a little excited, I was also nervous. I haven’t talked much about him because I wasn’t sure where it was going. He is a good guy. Most of them are, but most of them also have issues, baggage, or in my case and history, someone else in their lives. Ugh! It is…
- Erotic Journal Challenge, kinks, Lifestyle, Memes and Things, Relationship Thoughts Old and New, Self Love, Trust
Inspiration from unexpected sources
I have spent a lot of time looking for and finding inspiration. Inspiration has always come easy to me; it is the follow up that I struggle to conquer. It has taken me a long time to realize that inspiration comes from unexpected sources. I have never been someone to delve into a self-help book for answers. From the best to the worst, I usually finish the book, podcast, or seminar with the feeling that I already knew everything the said. It was just putting it into action that I struggled with finishing. I know in most parts of my life what I need to do. I should eat better…
- Aging, Decisions, Distress, Experiences, Random thoughts and processing, Relationship Thoughts Old and New, Self Love, Trust
Love is Saying the Hard Things
Love is saying the hard things. Sometimes the hardest things to say are the things that need to be said. Recently while sharing some whiskey with a friend, he made a comment so significant that it stopped me dead in my tracks. “The problem is T, love is saying the hard things, and you aren’t good at saying the hard things.” Well, fuck me! The main problem with this was I instantly knew he was right, and that stung a little bit. In my defense, I don’t like hurting people’s feelings. I also do not like confrontation. Put those two together and its a losing combination. Who looses? Everyone! I…
