• Erotic Journal Challenge,  kinks,  Lifestyle,  Memes and Things,  Relationship Thoughts Old and New,  Self Love,  Trust

    Inspiration from unexpected sources

    I have spent a lot of time looking for and finding inspiration. Inspiration has always come easy to me; it is the follow up that I struggle to conquer.  It has taken me a long time to realize that inspiration comes from unexpected sources.  I have never been someone to delve into a self-help book for answers.  From the best to the worst, I usually finish the book, podcast, or seminar with the feeling that I already knew everything the said.  It was just putting it into action that I struggled with finishing. I know in most parts of my life what I need to do.  I should eat better…

  • book opened to a page with a list of choices in a column
    Decisions,  Distress,  kinks,  Learning the Hard Way,  Self Love

    Doing Things or not Doing Things, it is a Choice!

    Doing things or not doing things it is a choice. Every day we have a choice to make on all levels.  Trying to keep within the legal limits, of course, we are faced with decisions and choices every day.  How we handle those decisions and how we approach the choices we make is essential.  We can all look back and wonder, “What the hell was I thinking?” but we can also look back and say, “Damn, I nailed that one!”.  How we view our choices is also a choice. I was going through my phone, clearing some pictures off of it.  I take pictures of memes, and different things as…

  • white body with black strap bathing suit
    Aging,  BDSM,  Decisions,  Every Damn Day in June,  Kink of the Week,  kinks,  Self Love

    Feeling Strappy Kinks

    I am feeling strappy kinks!  Maybe I am feeling strappy because it has been forever since I have experienced them.  I love straps of any kind, in clothing, and how they feel when they graze my body.  My biggest kink (thus far) is impact play.  Spanking, crops, and belts have been my experience, and I love them all.  Flogging is something that I have not experienced but hope that someday I will.  Until then, I will settle for soft straps across my body.  This suit was ordered during one of my sleep shopping nights.  Silly, I know, but I honestly don’t remember ordering this!  It came in the mail, and…

  • saying hard things pink square like a package hole in the middle white face with pink lipstick
    Aging,  Decisions,  Distress,  Experiences,  Random thoughts and processing,  Relationship Thoughts Old and New,  Self Love,  Trust

    Love is Saying the Hard Things

    Love is saying the hard things.  Sometimes the hardest things to say are the things that need to be said.  Recently while sharing some whiskey with a friend, he made a comment so significant that it stopped me dead in my tracks. “The problem is T, love is saying the hard things, and you aren’t good at saying the hard things.” Well, fuck me!  The main problem with this was I instantly knew he was right, and that stung a little bit.  In my defense, I don’t like hurting people’s feelings.  I also do not like confrontation.  Put those two together and its a losing combination.  Who looses?  Everyone! I…

  • metal barbell small on black blanket edited with cold and hot temperature light
    Masturbation,  Masturbation Monday,  Memes and Things,  Self Love

    Cold and Hot

    Cold and hot, back and forth, trading off a few minutes at a time.  This is how the weather had been.  Typical for this time of year, her least favorite time of year.  She wished Mother Nature would just make up her mind and pick one or the other. Temperatures make things interesting. Weather, water, metal, glass, it all changes how we feel.  With this in mind, she took the metal dildo out of the freezer.  Walking naked to her bedroom, she turned off the lights and the television.  The windows were open.  The weather outside was damp. A cool breeze crept through the open window.  The weather matched her…