• swinging people dancing on dance floor with
    January Jumpstart,  Lifestyle,  Lustitude,  Open Relationships,  Polyamorous,  Relationship Thoughts Old and New,  Trust

    Lifestyle

    Lifestyle is a term I both love and hate. While not liking labels on a person, I realize that lifestyle is a part of us. That part I like. The part I hate is that saying you have a lifestyle can pigeon hole you to the point that if you deviate from it – you are deviant. I don’t want to stay in any lifestyle or category at this point in my life. I have always hated labels. I find that in each community I enter, others need to place you in a category. When I started dating my ex-wife, I wasn’t gay enough. It was clear that her friends,…

  • Wine and whiskey four women grey shirts all say day drinking because 2020 sucks arm in arm no faces visible
    Friendship,  Sisterhood,  Trust

    Two Parts Wine, Two Parts Whiskey

    Whiskey, wine, and women have been, for the past year, a theme in my existence. Usually, they are experienced separately. This weekend, they were all together in beautiful harmony. I never imagined that my need to get out of my environment to someplace new for the first time since the pandemic hit would lead to one of the best weekends in my memory to date. Four women and a dog head out to a little town in West Virginia to escape our realities. We packed comfy clothes, lots of food, and a lot of wine and whiskey. We were all struggling. It wasn’t just the pandemic but the personal issues…

  • Erotic Journal Challenge,  kinks,  Lifestyle,  Memes and Things,  Relationship Thoughts Old and New,  Self Love,  Trust

    Inspiration from unexpected sources

    I have spent a lot of time looking for and finding inspiration. Inspiration has always come easy to me; it is the follow up that I struggle to conquer.  It has taken me a long time to realize that inspiration comes from unexpected sources.  I have never been someone to delve into a self-help book for answers.  From the best to the worst, I usually finish the book, podcast, or seminar with the feeling that I already knew everything the said.  It was just putting it into action that I struggled with finishing. I know in most parts of my life what I need to do.  I should eat better…

  • saying hard things pink square like a package hole in the middle white face with pink lipstick
    Aging,  Decisions,  Distress,  Experiences,  Random thoughts and processing,  Relationship Thoughts Old and New,  Self Love,  Trust

    Love is Saying the Hard Things

    Love is saying the hard things.  Sometimes the hardest things to say are the things that need to be said.  Recently while sharing some whiskey with a friend, he made a comment so significant that it stopped me dead in my tracks. “The problem is T, love is saying the hard things, and you aren’t good at saying the hard things.” Well, fuck me!  The main problem with this was I instantly knew he was right, and that stung a little bit.  In my defense, I don’t like hurting people’s feelings.  I also do not like confrontation.  Put those two together and its a losing combination.  Who looses?  Everyone! I…

  • multi colored back ground with yellow letters spelling sorry
    Decisions,  Distress,  Learning the Hard Way,  Trust

    I’m sorry

    I’m sorry.  Some people often say that saying “I’m sorry” is difficult.  It doesn’t come easy to some folks.  I don’t understand that because I always say I’m sorry, even when I shouldn’t.  I would say it is almost compulsive.  I apologize to the wall when I bump into it.  I also apologize when other people hurt me.  Clearly, it was something I did that required me to apologize.  That has been my life.  For as long as I can remember I have always apologized first regardless if I was at fault or not. I don’t like making mistakes.  I like hurting people even less.  I have learned that I…