• morning sunrise over the ocean and beach
    Kink of the Week,  QuoteQuest

    Good Morning

    Back in the day I use to fear morning sex. If there was even a hint of it I would lay awake all night. Why? To be sure I would wake up first, brush my teeth, use the bathroom and do a quick wash up. I would then slide back into bed and lay there still. I honestly think the only thing I didn’t do was apply make up. I am happy to say that things changed. I have turned into a lover of morning sex. Being single kind of sucks right now because we are entering the fall season where the chilly night and mornings lend perfectly to snuggling…

  • seeing double side by side pictures of the same white woman one side wearing a jean jacket, the other side wearing a blue tank top, both smiling same woman with significant weight loss
    February Photofest 2019!,  Memes and Things

    Seeing Double

    Seeing double and processing what I see.  Taking pictures of myself for February Photofest 2019 has been fun and challenging and has for the past 21 days had me thinking or rethinking my perspective on my body and my sensuality.  Today, I couldn’t post anything I had taken because they all seemed too revealing, or I wasn’t comfortable with what I saw.  Thinking (or overthinking) about it this morning, I realized it wasn’t just that the photos I had taken were revealing.  It was that when I looked at them I didn’t see sensual, I saw all the flaws that I view in myself.  So, I started going through old…

  • Thoughts,  Vanilla

    Beach lessons – Thoughts

    The ocean never disappoints. As soon as I think it is redundant a new form or new shaped wave appears and surprises and impressed me. Redundancy and insanity doing the same thing over again don’t apply here.  My beach lessons are always deep and thoughtful. My thoughts pour out like the rain and swirl like the wind and in front of the powerful waves and guarding moon I find it is easier to sort them. Once again I am reminded that my connection to this wonder of nature is strong and should not be ignored. I owe it and myself the commitment to spend time together. The sun, moon, and…

  • The beach where peace is found
    Thoughts,  Vanilla

    Beach lessons – Sunday morning thoughts

    I didn’t bring the laptop this weekend and hate publishing from my phone but some thoughts can’t wait.  It is Sunday morning.  It is time for beach lessons. I wanted a tech-free weekend with no responsibilities. The beach has always been my healing reflective place. My therapy. Younger me always thought I had to be on the beach tanning to get that. My older self has learned that things have changed. I have had a rough four years and many parts of those struggles continue. Some will always be in the front of the line and some will move from back to front from time to time. I will feel…

  • BDSM,  Learning the Hard Way

    Community, Cliques and Making Friends

    via Community, Cliques and Making Friends.   This is an amazing read.  Much of how I felt when I started blogging was that I wasn’t worthy of association with these authors that push the limits and write about consensual, kinky,  sex in ways I thought I could only imagine.  There are community, cliques and making friends in all aspects of our lives.  In the kink community, it can be a little more difficult. In the beginning, I was clueless, I just knew I wanted to write.   I also wanted to blog and tweet and do all of those things.  Newbies have wonderful mentors and role models.  We should reach out…