• BDSM,  Decisions,  February Photofest 2019

    Why is something that is suppose to be good for you such a chore?

    Ugh!  The gym.  Why is something that is supposed to be good for you such a chore?  She has heard that if you do something for 30 days it becomes a habit.  She can eat pizza every day for 30 days, instant habit.  She has been going to the gym for over six months, not a habit.  It is a forced act done with dread.  It almost makes her angry.  She always feels better when she gets there and proud when it is done.  If not for the strength of the workout, for the fact that she actually got there, to begin with. She doesn’t dress fancy.  No thirty dollar…

  • Experiences,  Learning the Hard Way

    Consent

    I have experienced sex without consent.  Looking back now, more times than I care to remember.  My first sexual experience was with a boy that I barely knew.  We went to the bedroom and were just going to “mess around”.  He was just going to “finger” me.  He wasn’t going to do anything I didn’t want to do.  The next thing I knew his dick was inside me and he was grunting and telling me how pretty I was.  Yep.  that was my special experience at giving my virginity away.  I remember having regrets about what happened and how it happened but I didn’t stop it.  There was a level…

  • 30 Days of D/s,  Learning the Hard Way,  Thoughts

    Consent

    What does consent mean to you? Consent is something that allows you to feel comfortable in any situation.  Consent is also fluid.  Even with the best laid out plans, you can get to a point where your original consent is no longer comfortable or feels safe. I was always worried about consenting to something and then having a change of mind in the middle.  I don’t want to disappoint anyone or stop the feeling.  I also wasn’t sure how to stop an activity without stopping the scene or flow of things. I have an internal affliction to the word “no”.  I never say it.  I rarely deny anyone when they…