• 30 Days of D/s,  Learning the Hard Way,  Thoughts

    Introducing D/s into your vanilla relationship

    How did you introduce D/s into your vanilla relationship?  What worked and what didn’t? Ugh!  Let’s start with what didn’t.  My first long-term relationship was with my now ex-husband.  We never talked about sex, we never communicated what was good and what wasn’t.  We never really joked around or teased each other and there was actually no pillow talk.  It was not just vanilla, it was more structured to the purpose of having kids than having fun and enjoying each other.  It was not either of our faults, just how we were raised.  Parents that explained the mechanics and medical parts of sex but forgot to mention it was ok…