• morning sunrise over the ocean and beach
    Kink of the Week,  QuoteQuest

    Good Morning

    Back in the day I use to fear morning sex. If there was even a hint of it I would lay awake all night. Why? To be sure I would wake up first, brush my teeth, use the bathroom and do a quick wash up. I would then slide back into bed and lay there still. I honestly think the only thing I didn’t do was apply make up. I am happy to say that things changed. I have turned into a lover of morning sex. Being single kind of sucks right now because we are entering the fall season where the chilly night and mornings lend perfectly to snuggling…

  • talk to me two people sitting on a beach with a can of soda/beer between them dark blue sky
    Kink of the Week,  Memes and Things

    Talk to Me, About Me

    Talk to me, or about me; it will be something I obsess over. I have always had a paranoia about people talking about me. It didn’t matter if they were saying good things or bad things; I always thought people were talking. It wasn’t until recently that I found there are times I don’t mind it at all. I use to be worried that people would talk about me. If I was the first to leave a group, the entire way home was thoughts of what they said the minute I left. It didn’t matter if my brain allowed me to think there were good things to be said, I…

  • white body with black strap bathing suit
    Aging,  BDSM,  Decisions,  Every Damn Day in June,  Kink of the Week,  kinks,  Self Love

    Feeling Strappy Kinks

    I am feeling strappy kinks!  Maybe I am feeling strappy because it has been forever since I have experienced them.  I love straps of any kind, in clothing, and how they feel when they graze my body.  My biggest kink (thus far) is impact play.  Spanking, crops, and belts have been my experience, and I love them all.  Flogging is something that I have not experienced but hope that someday I will.  Until then, I will settle for soft straps across my body.  This suit was ordered during one of my sleep shopping nights.  Silly, I know, but I honestly don’t remember ordering this!  It came in the mail, and…

  • different colored rulers with measure visible lined in a row from top to bottom
    Experiences,  Random thoughts and processing,  Self Love

    Does Size Really Matter?

    I know this is a pretty old joke with many variations.   High school was full of small penis jokes.  Being who I was and how I was back then, I didn’t get any of those jokes.  I smiled and laughed when I thought I could get away with it, but truthfully, this 17-year-old virgin wasn’t sure what the deal was.  I didn’t know if size really mattered. Fast forward without a lot of backstories now I can honestly say that I get the jokes.  Also being who I am now, and probably who I was back then, I still don’t think the jokes are all that funny.  I think…

  • finger trace male hands female backside black and white
    BDSM,  kinks

    Tracing a Finger

    For all the thrills we get from our kinks, impact play, bondage, suspension, there is also the lighter side we don’t often hear as much about.  Or perhaps it is that I don’t talk about it as much, read about it as much or focus on it as much as I do the other kinks I enjoy.  The tracing of a finger, the long stare, eyes connected and no need to look away.  These are things that have been brought to my attention lately. It has been a year since my D/s relationship ended.  Much of my focus has been on the loss kinks that I enjoyed during the time…