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We Have to Hurt to Know
c/w Depression / Addiction We have to hurt to know; an unfortunate truth. This is a lesson older than time. I was raised to learn from my mistakes. I was usually told of the consequences, and then the choice was mine to make my decisions. As children, we are warned not to touch a hot stove. As adults, we have to know that we shouldn’t do certain things. You know you shouldn’t do it. Even as children, sometimes we know. We can not help ourselves, though, can we? We touch the stove, and of course, Mom was right. It hurts. The decision was ours. Now that we know the consequence…
- Aging, Decisions, Distress, Experiences, Random thoughts and processing, Relationship Thoughts Old and New, Self Love, Trust
Love is Saying the Hard Things
Love is saying the hard things. Sometimes the hardest things to say are the things that need to be said. Recently while sharing some whiskey with a friend, he made a comment so significant that it stopped me dead in my tracks. “The problem is T, love is saying the hard things, and you aren’t good at saying the hard things.” Well, fuck me! The main problem with this was I instantly knew he was right, and that stung a little bit. In my defense, I don’t like hurting people’s feelings. I also do not like confrontation. Put those two together and its a losing combination. Who looses? Everyone! I…
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Tracing a Finger
For all the thrills we get from our kinks, impact play, bondage, suspension, there is also the lighter side we don’t often hear as much about. Or perhaps it is that I don’t talk about it as much, read about it as much or focus on it as much as I do the other kinks I enjoy. The tracing of a finger, the long stare, eyes connected and no need to look away. These are things that have been brought to my attention lately. It has been a year since my D/s relationship ended. Much of my focus has been on the loss kinks that I enjoyed during the time…
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Photos! – Day 28!
The last day of February Photofest 2019. This was an amazing experience for me. I have to admit I was terrified and had no idea if I would survive, or even finish it. I wouldn’t have seen this through the 28 days without the support of this amazing community! More than the experience of this special growth I have realized (most unexpected) was reading others’ words, and experiencing others’ thoughts and feelings and the beauty in the photos that everyone shared. The journey is still a long way to go, but this has started growth and a change of perspective, on my inner self and my body image. Here’s to…
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Out of Dom Space
Coming from me this may sound weird. It feels a little weird too. I have never been dominant in anything. That isn’t to say that someday I won’t be, but for now, it just isn’t me. So the Dom side of things has been something that I have been researching and reading about to get a better understanding of the other side. I think it will make me a better submissive. I am aware of sub space. I never dawned on me that there was a Dom space as well. During a difficult time with my Dom, we were walking and he was talking about his struggles with his primary. …
