• book opened to a page with a list of choices in a column
    Decisions,  Distress,  kinks,  Learning the Hard Way,  Self Love

    Doing Things or not Doing Things, it is a Choice!

    Doing things or not doing things it is a choice. Every day we have a choice to make on all levels.  Trying to keep within the legal limits, of course, we are faced with decisions and choices every day.  How we handle those decisions and how we approach the choices we make is essential.  We can all look back and wonder, “What the hell was I thinking?” but we can also look back and say, “Damn, I nailed that one!”.  How we view our choices is also a choice. I was going through my phone, clearing some pictures off of it.  I take pictures of memes, and different things as…

  • white body with black strap bathing suit
    Aging,  BDSM,  Decisions,  Every Damn Day in June,  Kink of the Week,  kinks,  Self Love

    Feeling Strappy Kinks

    I am feeling strappy kinks!  Maybe I am feeling strappy because it has been forever since I have experienced them.  I love straps of any kind, in clothing, and how they feel when they graze my body.  My biggest kink (thus far) is impact play.  Spanking, crops, and belts have been my experience, and I love them all.  Flogging is something that I have not experienced but hope that someday I will.  Until then, I will settle for soft straps across my body.  This suit was ordered during one of my sleep shopping nights.  Silly, I know, but I honestly don’t remember ordering this!  It came in the mail, and…

  • finger trace male hands female backside black and white
    BDSM,  kinks

    Tracing a Finger

    For all the thrills we get from our kinks, impact play, bondage, suspension, there is also the lighter side we don’t often hear as much about.  Or perhaps it is that I don’t talk about it as much, read about it as much or focus on it as much as I do the other kinks I enjoy.  The tracing of a finger, the long stare, eyes connected and no need to look away.  These are things that have been brought to my attention lately. It has been a year since my D/s relationship ended.  Much of my focus has been on the loss kinks that I enjoyed during the time…