• Wine and whiskey four women grey shirts all say day drinking because 2020 sucks arm in arm no faces visible
    Friendship,  Sisterhood,  Trust

    Two Parts Wine, Two Parts Whiskey

    Whiskey, wine, and women have been, for the past year, a theme in my existence. Usually, they are experienced separately. This weekend, they were all together in beautiful harmony. I never imagined that my need to get out of my environment to someplace new for the first time since the pandemic hit would lead to one of the best weekends in my memory to date. Four women and a dog head out to a little town in West Virginia to escape our realities. We packed comfy clothes, lots of food, and a lot of wine and whiskey. We were all struggling. It wasn’t just the pandemic but the personal issues…

  • BDSM,  Decisions,  February Photofest 2019

    Why is something that is suppose to be good for you such a chore?

    Ugh!  The gym.  Why is something that is supposed to be good for you such a chore?  She has heard that if you do something for 30 days it becomes a habit.  She can eat pizza every day for 30 days, instant habit.  She has been going to the gym for over six months, not a habit.  It is a forced act done with dread.  It almost makes her angry.  She always feels better when she gets there and proud when it is done.  If not for the strength of the workout, for the fact that she actually got there, to begin with. She doesn’t dress fancy.  No thirty dollar…

  • Masturbation Monday

    It Didn’t Feel Like Christmas

    The conference had been long in a hotel with the air conditioner wars in each room.  Then the drive home was in a car without air condition at all.  Rolling the windows down brought swirling hot air that did little to help.  It didn’t feel like Christmas.  It was hot and humid and sticky.  She normally liked the heat but it was December.  She was use to it being cold and windy.  She hated cold and windy.  She couldn’t make up her mind what to like and what not to like.  She just wanted to get in the shower and wash the day off of her.  The conference was stale and…

  • BDSM,  Learning the Hard Way

    Community, Cliques and Making Friends

    via Community, Cliques and Making Friends.   This is an amazing read.  Much of how I felt when I started blogging was that I wasn’t worthy of association with these authors that push the limits and write about consensual, kinky,  sex in ways I thought I could only imagine.  There are community, cliques and making friends in all aspects of our lives.  In the kink community, it can be a little more difficult. In the beginning, I was clueless, I just knew I wanted to write.   I also wanted to blog and tweet and do all of those things.  Newbies have wonderful mentors and role models.  We should reach out…

  • Experiences

    Mature women like sex too!

    I struggle with the title “mature”.  I don’t feel old, so calling myself old doesn’t feel right.  Calling myself mature reminds me of how people explain women that are older so basically the same thing.  It sucks really.  I am in my early 50’s.  They say that 50 is the new 40 but to be honest, I don’t feel 40 either.  That still seems older than I feel.  Most days anyway.  As a latecomer to my sexuality, it is difficult to process sometimes the new things that I am interested in and enjoy.  Bottom line is, mature women like sex too!  Feeling guilty about it doesn’t make sense. Most of…